Love ones changes to their mental state can be difficult to accept. The resident's need for love and companionship does not change.   By accepting the status of your loved one, you will avoid feeling let down, or depressed. Try not to underestimate your loved one’s abilities either. This could cause him or her a loss of self-esteem. Use your judgment and find a realistic balance for your expectations.

Every person needs a sense of purpose and meaning.
Visits from relatives and friends can provide this sense for the elderly.
The response from the elderly may be less noticeable with Residents who are cognitively impaired.
Visitors may feel discouraged and may even question whether their visits are beneficial.
It is very comforting for a cognitively impaired or confused person to hear a familiar voice and see a familiar face.

Family relationships and friendships are important in contributing to the well-being and happiness of all people. His or her needs will not change after moving into a personal care home.

Making visits meaningful and pleasurable means that you are more likely to want to return.

Visiting a Resident:

• demonstrates that someone cares;
• the person feels valued;
• breaks the monotony, as there is often little communication between Residents;
• an ordinary conversation is stimulating for them, even gives them something to boast about.

Questions or concerns related to a Resident’s care should be directed to the unit nurse.  Who will investigate and advise you of the results and of any follow-up required.  Feel free to contact the Resident Care Manager or the Social Worker if your concerns remains unresolved.

Concerns related to misplaced clothing should be directed to the unit nurse who will initiate a search.

Plumbing, electrical issues should be directed to the unit nurse who will communicate with the Maintenance Department.

Menu and diet questions or concerns will be relayed to the Food Services Supervisor or Dietitian.

Financial and business concerns should be directed to the Accounts Receivable Clerk.

If you have a concern about an employee, please direct concerns to the employee’s supervisor. If you are not sure who the employee’s supervisor is, please contact the Social Worker for assistance.

Manitoba Health and the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority provide mediation assistance in matters of concern for Residents in personal care homes. The Manitoba Health phone number is: 1-888-871-6276 and the WRHA phone number is: 204-926-8067.

Respect is mutual. Bethania Mennonite Personal Care Home and Pembina Place Mennonite Personal Care Home are committed to ensuring a safe and respectful environment. Our residents and their loved ones can expect courteous and respectful service. Our facilities do not tolerate aggressive behavior, harassment and verbal abuse.

Be patient

Speak normally.

Don’t use baby talk. Speak respectfully.

Put yourself at eye level with the person you are speaking to.

Be flexible in your conversation and adjust to mood changes.

Validate feelings, emotions or beliefs.

Acknowledge the losses of control of routine, privacy, and identity that come with living in a personal care home.

Identify some positive factors and discuss those as well.

Touch the hand of the person you speak to.

A kiss on the cheek.

Follow through on promises.

Develop a signal to say “good bye” or “I love you”.

If possible, plan your next visit in accordance with your loved one’s preferences.

He or she may feel more sociable at certain times of the day.

To help bring back memories of shared experiences, use pictures, verbal descriptions and real objects.